Why I Stopped Unschooling: A Journey of Learning and Adaptation

Why I Stopped Unschooling
Written by Wayka Mido

For years, I embraced the unschooling philosophy, an educational path that felt revolutionary and deeply aligned with my beliefs about learning and growth. Unschooling, with its promise of unlimited freedom and trust in a child’s natural curiosity, was more than an educational choice; it was a lifestyle. However, life is about change and adaptation. Recently, I made the decision to transition away from unschooling. This post delves into the reasons behind this significant shift, reflecting a journey that is both personal and universal in the realm of unconventional education.

The Unschooling Ideal: A Vision of Freedom and Joy

Unschooling appeared to be the perfect antidote to the rigid, one-size-fits-all approach of traditional schooling. It promised a world where learning was as natural as breathing, where children could explore their passions without constraints. This vision was incredibly appealing: a child-led journey of discovery, unhindered by textbooks and tests, driven by joy and curiosity. For a while, it seemed like the ideal learning path for my family.

Challenges and Realizations

Despite its beauty, unschooling posed challenges that became harder to ignore over time. The biggest challenge was ensuring a comprehensive education. While unschooling excels in fostering creativity and independent thinking, I started to worry about gaps in fundamental knowledge and skills.

Another concern was socialization. While unschoolers often have diverse social interactions, I noticed a need for more consistent peer engagement and structured group activities for my children.

Evolving Needs and Educational Balance

As my children grew, their needs evolved. They started to crave more structure and expressed interest in subjects that required a more systematic approach, like mathematics and science. This realization prompted a re-evaluation of our educational path.

I began to see the value in blending different educational philosophies. While retaining the core principles of unschooling – respect for the child’s interests and a focus on experiential learning – I introduced more structured learning opportunities.

Transitioning to a New Educational Path

The transition from unschooling wasn’t easy. It involved open conversations with my children about their needs and goals, and a personal reckoning with the ideals I held so dearly. We explored various educational options, including hybrid homeschooling models, online courses, and community-based learning initiatives.

Lessons Learned and Looking Ahead

This journey taught me that education is not static. It’s about finding what works best for each child at different stages of their life. I’ve learned to be more flexible, to listen deeply to my children’s needs, and to adapt accordingly.

As we move forward, I carry with me the spirit of unschooling – a deep respect for my children’s natural curiosity and a commitment to lifelong learning. But now, this spirit is tempered with a greater appreciation for structure and balance.


Stopping unschooling doesn’t mean abandoning the values it instills; it means adapting those values to meet the changing needs of my children. It’s a reminder that in education, as in life, the only constant is change, and our ability to navigate this change is the truest testament to learning.

About the author

Wayka Mido

A Part Time gamer since the old time of chess, a full timer writer at like to write about gaming news, tips and tricks.